Benefits of Being Single in College



While you are in college, choosing to be single can be appealing for many reasons. While you are studying in school, staying single gives you more time to focus on issues that you are uncertain about in your life. Several college students are often unsure of their major and their future. Staying single during college gives you time to explore what your interests are and help you find out what you value most with less distractions. You have more free time to participate in extra-curricular activities and events in college too when you’re not worrying about making another person happy.  These activities can allow you to focus your energy on finding creative ways to express who you are and help you meet new people that can help you choose a major, if you are uncertain.  The school work in college is rigorous and since relationships are often emotionally draining and time consuming, choosing to be single is the best option for some students. College often sets the tone for some people to not take life seriously by being single and living a partying lifestyle. You can get off track by giving into some of the peer pressures of being single and living the typical college student’s lifestyle. When analyzed differently, you can decide to choose to be single as a way to take life more seriously through your studies combined with self-study and reflection. You can show leadership by being a student that does not let others tell them what to think or believe and take their studies seriously. Your time in college can help you find out what your beliefs, values, and opinions of the world are.  Choosing to be single can benefit some in this quest.

Choosing a Major

Spending more of your time with lots of different people that major in different areas can help you learn more about other majors to decide for yourself what is the best major for you to choose. You can spend more time with others to find out what their overall opinions of what the majors have to offer, what the course work is like, and how the major has help them find success and find happiness. You have more time to spend with your family and friends. Family and friends can often help you find the stability that most college students need and often cannot find in unsteady dating relationships.  College is a time of uncertainty in of itself for most people as they are trying to make their way in the world, and as most relationships come and go the relationships only become a distraction from your future success. It is best to find social groups that offer unconditional support and friendship to help you find your way in life. Some students leave school because of relationships; they get married and have children. When this occurs, most people do not finish their degree.  Your future can be greatly affected by decided to let one person dictate your future when you might not make the same salary by dropping out of school and the relationship might not last.

Discovering Who You Are and Finding Your Future


You should have full control over your future and make choices for yourself. College teaches you the importance of thinking for yourself and outside of the box. When you are presented with a series of difficult life choices, college teaches you not to compromise who you are to find true happiness and success that no one can take away from you.  Discovering you who are as individual with the gifts that you are given helps you to appreciate life and see more clearly what life is all about. When you follow what the crowd or one person wants you to be, you lose your sense of self and your whole world can fall apart. Learning to be by yourself and be devoted to your studies helps you not to let anyone or anything stop you from achieving your dreams and use your knowledge to help improve this world. At the same time being single helps you learn to think more of others than of yourself, you learn to think more about how others think feel and what they perceive about the world and not only of how or your significant other view the world.

Helping the World


Being single gives you invaluable time to let your opinions stand out and let your voice be heard apart from the typical views of others and not let the world tell you who you are. You learn that there is more to life than love and romance as you focus on other aspects of the world while you are being educated. College offers you a platform to help change the world, and you can best use your opinions as an individual for the ultimate good of yourself and others if you chose to do so. Many colleges can provide you with opportunities to travel by yourself or with a group to help out the less fortunate as well. If you were interested, not being involved in a relationship can make it easier to pack up and leave for such an opportunity. Being single in college is a sacrifice, but it is worth it in my opinion.


The Selection Series Review


The Selection


When you’re in college, giving your mind a break while keeping your brain active can be accomplished through outside reading. A great way to get your mind off your school work and relax is to read books that use the creative and imaginative aspects of your mind. One of the new series of books that has recently become popular and can be purchased at most all bookstores everywhere is The Selection and Elite series by Kiera Cass. The series is about royals in a caste system that use a selection process to court potential suitors and choose one to marry. In the selection books, America Singer, the sixteen-year old protagonist joins a selection of woman in a competition to marry Prince Maxon.

The Challenge


The selection is similar to a beauty pageant combined with an intellectual challenge as the girls are given rigorous assignments by Sylvia to both present to and impress King Clarkson, Prince Maxon, and the public. The girls are required to give presentations to the public where they address social justice issues to demonstrate how they would make the best possible decisions among an elite group of women if they were chosen by Prince Maxon to become the new princess. These assignments would remind the reader of how hard it is to prove your ability to reason on an individual basis in college presentations and papers that are to reflect similar thoughts and goals that can be compared to the arduous tasks the girls in the selection are forced to undergo. Their main task is to prove that they are well-bred by displaying proper etiquette at social functions hosted for royalty from other countries to show their diplomatic skills. These events include balls that the women in the selection host. As they put on the social event, they are given different roles that work on specific aspects of the social events as they strive to become the leading hostess through their social interaction with their guests. In the midst of all of the social functions, there are rebel revolutionaries that strive to terrorize and harm the royals. At one point in the Selection series, the women in the selection are to host a social event which is then interrupted by an outbreak from the revolutionaries. America Singer’s life is in danger and she has to use her intellect in the same way she does in the competition only this time it is applied to a real life situation as she is forced to think quickly to survive in these instances.

The Competition


The code of conduct is very strict between men and women in the palace, which makes the competition more interesting. America becomes distraught in a horrific scene where Marlee is punished for her misconduct with a male suitor where she is publicly beaten and shamed. At the end of the selection, Maxon surprises America as he lets her see Marlee again. America Singer is not your typical female heroine. She is outspoken and she does not play a typical character as she is very different in her thinking and views, since she is a highly intelligent and creative character. She is not as worldly in light of the that fact that she does not care as much whether she wins the crown or not while the other girls are more vicious in their competition and desire for the crown, such as Celeste. When America finds Maxon in a romantic scene with Celeste after she had an intimate and romantic moment with him, she becomes very upset. Celeste presents a more evil aspect of the competition than the other girls present as she strives to steal Maxon from the other girls and manipulate him by using more of the physical nature of their relationship against him. Women can relate to this aspect of the complexity of relationships in the books because it is both very realistic and imaginative. America begins to wonder about the nature of men herself after this event because Maxon appears to be somewhat of a fickle play boy. The other girls in the competition include Elise, Celeste, and Kriss as they add complexity to the story by presenting striking contrasts to America’s personality. Elise and Kriss seem to care more about the trivial aspects of winning the title and the crown than America does. Elise tends to doubt herself out of frustration when the competition becomes gradually more challenging and Kriss seems to care more about the gossip among the girls. America has more of a personal relationship and connection with Maxon than the other girls do. The other girls tend to focus on and be distracted by other extraneous factors that play into the competition, but are not as significant overall in the making of the final decision.

A Surprise Ending *spoiler alert*

America’s outspoken nature gets her in trouble with the King, though she wins the heart of the public’s approval through her bravery and actions. She is forced to not take the King’s criticism to heart about her overall contribution to the worldliness of the royal scene. Surprisingly, through the genuineness and humbleness of  her personality, she wins the crown. Cass makes the series interesting by presenting a series of arguments and fights between Maxon and America with a surprise ending where they get married. Since America Singer plays a unique role in The Selection series as she is both a royal and a down to earth character, she becomes an admirable character that captures the readers’ attention and favor.


Beauty Care Tips: Hair and Face


It’s important to take care of our bodies on the inside and outside. These are beauty care tips on how to keep your hair and skin healthy and looking great.

Tips for Healthy Hair


The picture above is before and after a few treatments of coconut oil. The colder months are coming and that means dry hair. If you find you have dry hair, try adding argon oil or coconut oil to the ends. The oils add moisture and they add shine to your hair.

Washing your hair is also an important part of keeping it healthy and looking good. You may think you’re washing it correctly, but are you really? Hair care experts say that when you wash your hair you should only apply shampoo to the roots- that’s the only place that produces oil and therefore the only place that gets greasy. When you put the conditioner in, only put it on the ends and don’t leave it on; wash it out after the same amount of time you would wash your shampoo out. Leaving it in can make your hair feel heavy and greasy on the ends.

Tips for Healthy Skin (Face)


Wash your face often- before bed and after you wake up. Washing your face every day prevents buildups on your face which lead to breakouts. Take extra care after a workout, so as not to leave the sweat just sitting there.

Makeup is amazing, but not always for the health of your face. Before you wash your face, take all of the makeup off. And never ever sleep with your makeup on.

Another thing that will help is to change your sheets and pillowcases more often. Oil can store itself in the sheets and the pillow cases and when you lay your just washed face on it, it will just add oil to your skin.

Moisturizing is also really important. There are many brands of facial moisturizer, but my favorite is plain baby lotion. It’s made for sensitive skin so its less likely to breakout and it isn’t greasy.

Bonus Beauty Care Tips

  • Drink a lot of water. Try to drink ten glasses a day. Your complexion and waistline will thank you.
  • Exercising can help keep your entire body healthy and endorphins make you happy.
  • Get some rest. Sleep allows the body to heal and rest, keeping you healthy and beautiful.


Living a healthy lifestyle is something we should all strive for. Hopefully these tips will help you feel great.

Comment below with tricks you’ve found to work, and as always, good luck!


All About Sorority Rush



Whether you are a freshman or about to finish college, sorority rush is a great way to meet new people and make connections. Most colleges begin rush either a few weeks before school starts or a month or so into the fall semester. The entering freshman class receives the opportunity to get to know more students during their first year by participating in sorority rush even if they decide not to pledge.

Pick up an Application


Students are to visit student life and pick up an application to start the process of rush. The application requires the students to attach a photo, along with a description of their academic and extra-curricular accomplishments, their year in college, their major, and their GPA. The sororities look for the most well-rounded students that excel in both academics and extra-curricular activities, since the sororities compete with one another throughout the year to strive to make the best impression on next year’s group of new potential members. The sororities use this application to select new members as they review their interactions and interviews with the potential new members each night of rush.

Prepare for Rush Week


Rush lasts for a week and is a rigorous process that requires the potential new members to communicate efficiently with numerous sorority members per house, dress properly, be knowledgeable about each sorority and describe how the new member would benefit the organization as a whole. At the start of sorority rush the potential new members are divided into small groups with a Rho Gamma leader. The Rho Gamma directs and guides the potential new members through the process. The Rho Gamma presents their experience going through rush to the new members, in order to encourage them as they prepare for each night. It is usually best to have some idea of which sororities you are more interested in than others before starting rush. Also, it is best to have some connections with others that have already been through rush before to ask for advice and to have connections with a sorority or fraternity before deciding to pledge. Some of the women’s sororities are actually known as fraternities and new members should be knowledgeable of the distinctions between each sorority.

First Night of Sorority Rush: Open House


The first night of rush consists of an open house. The first night is usually the most difficult experience because the new members are just becoming adjusted to talking to at least four or five members per house in a relatively short amount of time. On the first night, potential new members should make a good first impression by describing their academic and or extra-curricular accomplishments. It is best to already know about the philanthropy and the interests of the sorority or fraternity beforehand, but if not you can still do well as long as you strive to make a significant effort to learn about the organizations as you go through the process.

Second Night of Sorority Rush: House Tours


The second night is the house tours. On this night, the sororities try their best to impress the potential new members with singing, performances, various hands on activities, and introductions to the philanthropies. This is the time when the potential new members should pay the most attention to detail as they are to present themselves as confident in their future membership through their knowledge of the sororities’ and fraternities’ interests and expectations. The potential new members should try to be even more engaged in conversation as they interconnect their own interests and accomplishments with the views and standards of each sorority or fraternity. You can be invited to up to three houses until the final night.

Final Night of Sorority Rush: Pref


The final night is pref night and at this time you can only be invited to up to two parties. This night is known as the most critical one-on-one experience of all the nights during rush between the members and the potential new members. At this time, the members are trying to make the final decision as to which potential new members will receive a bid to join the sorority. The potential new members should try to persuade the members as to why they believe that they could make a difference in the sorority or fraternity and more importantly that they are more interested in the organization than the other girls.

Bid Day


The sororities will only choose the girls that they are more convinced will be involved in the sorority and that are genuinely interested in joining. Some of the pressure can be taken off the potential new members as they realize that the members are trying harder to convince the new members as to why they should join their organization and that all they have to do is describe how interested they are in Greek life. Rush is worthwhile because you make new friends and learn how can improve college life by joining a sorority. Bid day is a once in a life time experience and if you make it that far you have proven how you belong in an organization that exemplifies true leadership and sets a positive example on campus.

Comment below with your sorority rush questions or experiences!


Safety Tips for College Students


Being in your dorm by dark isn’t always doable, but preparing yourself for safety can be. These are safety tips for college students on campus, whether you’re leaving your late class or a party, being prepared for anything can give you some peace of mind.

Use the Buddy System


When you’re walking home from class or a party in the dark, it’s always best to have a good friend by your side. If something were to go wrong, at least there is someone with you and someone knows where you are. An extra pair of eyes to be on the lookout never hurts either!

Talk on Your Phone


Talking on the phone is something that a lot of us are used to doing on a daily basis. If you’re coming home from somewhere on campus late at night and are starting to feel a little scared, call someone and talk to them while you’re walking. Not sure who to call? You could call home- they miss you! Or call a friend, I’m sure there’s something the two of you could talk about. Make sure you let whoever you called know exactly where you are located. This way someone would instantly know if something happened.

Know the Emergency Boxes


There are emergency call boxes on every campus.  If you’re out and about, make sure you know where they are in case you need to get to one. These call boxes connect you directly to campus security.  You can contact the office and have them tell you where the boxes are if you don’t already know.

Carry Pepper Spray


Many of us have heard of pepper spray, but have you ever actually used it? Pepper spray is very useful, especially in the fact that you don’t have to actually come in contact with an attacker when you use it. Educated yourself all about pepper spray and go pick some up to carry with you on campus. It can be found at most stores.

Learn Self Defense


Using self defense requires you to react and fend off a possible attacker. Self defense classes are often offered at your near by gym. I’ve taken a basic one before and not only did I learn to defend myself, it was a great workout and I had a lot of fun! See if one of your friends wants to find a self defense class to take with you.

These are some safety tips to help you protect yourself on campus. Don’t worry that you college campus is unsafe.  It’s always better to be safe than sorry!

What safety tips work for you on your college campus? Share in the comments below!


How to Bond With College Roommates


The start of the fall semester is starting soon, and for many college students this means new living situations and often new roommates. Although some may be living with friends, there are plenty of students and especially freshman who have yet to form a connection with their college roommates. Here are some ways to form and improve a relationship with a new college roommate.

Find a Commonality


The easiest way to bond with a new roommate is to find something that you have in common. Try broaching a variety of subjects to see where your tastes are similar and find something that you have the same opinion on or same interest in.

Go Somewhere Non-School Related With Them


If roommate relationships are restricted mostly to the dormitories, they may seem forced. If you expand your relationship with your roommate outside of the dorm and go somewhere together either by yourselves or in a group, the relationship will feel more genuine and likely become stronger.

Introduce Each Other to Preexisting or New Friends


Making friends with your roommate’s friends and them doing the same is an easy way to bond with someone. If they get along well with your friends then it is easier to include them in group activities and thus become better friends outside of the dorm or room.

Attend School Organized Events with Them


Universities make events for freshman and even upperclassman to get out and meet new people on campus. By going somewhere with your roommate you can get out and meet new people on campus, but have a familiar face there who can back you up if you need a confidence booster or help meeting new people.

Set Expectations for Behavior Within the Dorm


One of the hardest things about having roommates is that everyone has differing ideas of how duties should be spread and how each other should act in the context of the room. It is important to have an initial talk about what both parties expect so that there are no surprises down the line and you lessen the chance of someone being overly annoyed at a particular action or way of living.


First-Year Peer Mentoring



In order for college students to be successful in their future careers, they should strive to become achievers that rise above and beyond traditional standards. One outstanding option to attain the skills that are required for students to accomplish their career objectives while they are studying in college is to participate in peer mentoring. There are numerous college campuses with peer mentoring programs. The advantage of choosing to become involved in a peer mentor program, as opposed to other volunteer programs, is shown through the fact that students do not have to go outside of the college campus to help others.

Students can participate in peer mentoring programs as seniors to help guide freshman as they enter and embark on the journey of the college experience for the first time. The freshman class greatly needs proper advice from their peers that have already been through the college experience and have excelled in their studies. Peer mentors can provide information on campus life, the surrounding area where the college is located, studying tips, researching, and essay writing. These are all components that are crucial for students to become acquainted with as they start college in order for them to become successful during their first year. By receiving assurance from seniors, freshman students receive the confidence they need to find their place in college life and in this world.

Once you choose to become a peer mentor during your senior year of college, you become more experienced at proving your abilities to the world. You can prove your capabilities to your colleagues, your future employers, and your peers by applying the knowledge you received from your education to real life experiences that go beyond becoming a successful student, as you also prove that you have become an outstanding representative of your community.When you become a senior and are about to graduate, you should look back on your college experience and want to offer all that you learned to help others become successful because you were also once in the same uneasy position as the freshman at one time. Once you peer mentor college freshman as a senior, you will gain the leadership skills you need to succeed in the future and these skills will enhance your resume that future employers will review. Choosing to be a peer mentor helps students make the first and greatest transition in becoming a future success and you can make a difference by volunteering.

Comment below with your thoughts or experiences on first-year peer mentoring!


How to Prepare to Study Abroad


Studying abroad can be one of the best times in a student’s life. It gives you an opportunity to explore new places, try new foods, and experience new cultures. Many people see study abroad courses as trans-formative experiences that change the way that you view the world. However, there is much to think about and plan before getting up and moving to a different country for a semester, a year, or any extended time. Here are four important things to do and figure out before going abroad.

Prepare Proper Identification


When traveling to another country you will likely need a passport. If you do not already have one, obtaining one can be a semi long process. It is important to think ahead and get your passport sorted out before it is too late. It is important while overseas to keep your passport and identification stored in a safe place. Losing your ID or passport can create massive problems while abroad.

Sort Out Your Money


You will likely need a different currency when traveling abroad. It is necessary to either change your currency to the local one, or to find a credit or debit card that works overseas and has minimal charges that you can use. Airports tend to be an expensive place to exchange currency so seek out alternative places such as some banks.

Phone Plans


Figuring out a phone plan is important for study abroad programs, as using a domestic phone overseas can really run up your telephone bill. Different carriers have different options and it is important to look through each one and figure out which one is the most cost efficient and works the best for you.

Safety Protocol


It is important to be safe overseas as you will be in a place that is unfamiliar to you and will likely not have as much family and friends nearby to lean on if you need help. It is important to create a safety plan to ensure that you will be safe and able to enjoy your study abroad to the fullest!

Comment below with your study abroad tips and experiences!


Workout Like A Beast, Look Like A Beauty


Find Your Workout Pace


the Rock, or Jillian Michaels. Don’t worry when you can’t do the routine you pick out right away. Find a routine you want to be able to do, and slowly work towards it. This will lessen your chances of getting discouraged. Work up to a routine that is going to challenge your body, but don’t work so hard that you hurt yourself. Start with basic things: go for a jog, do a couple push-ups, a couple squats. Drink lots of water, and try and keep your body healthy aside from working out. Building up your workout will also lessen the chances of you hurting yourself. If you haven’t worked out in a while, you might not be sure of what your body can handle, so be sure to take it slow and don’t give up!

Enjoy Your Workout


Not everyone enjoys pumping iron or doing a bunch of squats. Try to find an activity you enjoy, if you enjoy it you’re less likely to quit trying. Maybe you enjoy running or swimming or biking or you could try walking a little more and driving a little less. Working out doesn’t have to be a chore. Find a cool playlist to listen to, find a friend to workout with, or find a cool place to workout.

This is one of the workout playlists I use on Spotify.

Feel Cute When You Workout

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Comment below with your best workout tips!


Clean Room, Clean Mind


It’s getting close to the beginning of the new school year, which means new teachers, new classes and maybe even a new dorm. Having a tidy room can have many benefits: it can relieve stress, it can help focus when you’re working on homework and its an added bonus that you don’t have to speed clean when friends and family come over. These are simple ways to keep a clean room and make the most of your space.

Small Space Doesn’t Mean Small Things

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Rooms vary in size and having a small room is an actual problem. It means you don’t have as many places for your things, which leads to your room feeling cluttered. To “de-clutter” your space go and get some storage drawers to place around the room. This can keep things like makeup, hair tools, shoes, hats and extra clothes up off the floor and out of sight until you need them. It keeps them well organized and doesn’t take up a lot of space. This also allows for a makeshift book case if you don’t have enough room for one.

A Lot Of Things Doesn’t Mean A Lot Of Clutter


Everyone has something that takes up a lot of space, whether its clothes, shoes, books, movies or what have you; we’ve all got something. Instead of getting rid of things (which note: you might need to do that too, more on that later) try different ways of organizing them. If you have things you don’t use, let’s say at least once a month, pack it up in a storage tote. You still have it on hand but it isn’t taking up space. For clothes, if its the wrong season, pack it up in a tote. You don’t need a winter coat in the middle of July, and you don’t need shorts in the middle of December. This allows more room for the clothes you wear all the time.

More Clothes Doesn’t Mean More Options


Admit it, you have a favorite pair of jeans, a lucky shirt, a special hoodie. You also have clothes in the back of your closet that you or someone else bought that you don’t wear, or you’ve grown out of. Take all of your clothes out of wherever you store them, and sort. The ones you haven’t worn in the last, say three, months put in the give away pile. Ones that are special and you don’t want to get rid of, pack them up in a tote. After you’re finished, you should have a smaller amount of clothes, that you can now fold and put away.

For a different way to fold clothes to make more space, check out these organizing tips.

Organizing your room can relieve stress, help with anxiety, and let’s face it, having a clutter free room makes it easier to clean. These are just a few tips on how to keep a clean room.

Comment down below other ideas you have for tidying a room. Good luck!