Benefits of Being Single in College

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While you are in college, choosing to be single can be appealing for many reasons. While you are studying in school, staying single gives you more time to focus on issues that you are uncertain about in your life. Several college students are often unsure of their major and their future. Staying single during college gives you time to explore what your interests are and help you find out what you value most with less distractions. You have more free time to participate in extra-curricular activities and events in college too when you’re not worrying about making another person happy.  These activities can allow you to focus your energy on finding creative ways to express who you are and help you meet new people that can help you choose a major, if you are uncertain.  The school work in college is rigorous and since relationships are often emotionally draining and time consuming, choosing to be single is the best option for some students. College often sets the tone for some people to not take life seriously by being single and living a partying lifestyle. You can get off track by giving into some of the peer pressures of being single and living the typical college student’s lifestyle. When analyzed differently, you can decide to choose to be single as a way to take life more seriously through your studies combined with self-study and reflection. You can show leadership by being a student that does not let others tell them what to think or believe and take their studies seriously. Your time in college can help you find out what your beliefs, values, and opinions of the world are.  Choosing to be single can benefit some in this quest.

Choosing a Major

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Spending more of your time with lots of different people that major in different areas can help you learn more about other majors to decide for yourself what is the best major for you to choose. You can spend more time with others to find out what their overall opinions of what the majors have to offer, what the course work is like, and how the major has help them find success and find happiness. You have more time to spend with your family and friends. Family and friends can often help you find the stability that most college students need and often cannot find in unsteady dating relationships.  College is a time of uncertainty in of itself for most people as they are trying to make their way in the world, and as most relationships come and go the relationships only become a distraction from your future success. It is best to find social groups that offer unconditional support and friendship to help you find your way in life. Some students leave school because of relationships; they get married and have children. When this occurs, most people do not finish their degree.  Your future can be greatly affected by decided to let one person dictate your future when you might not make the same salary by dropping out of school and the relationship might not last.

Discovering Who You Are and Finding Your Future

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You should have full control over your future and make choices for yourself. College teaches you the importance of thinking for yourself and outside of the box. When you are presented with a series of difficult life choices, college teaches you not to compromise who you are to find true happiness and success that no one can take away from you.  Discovering you who are as individual with the gifts that you are given helps you to appreciate life and see more clearly what life is all about. When you follow what the crowd or one person wants you to be, you lose your sense of self and your whole world can fall apart. Learning to be by yourself and be devoted to your studies helps you not to let anyone or anything stop you from achieving your dreams and use your knowledge to help improve this world. At the same time being single helps you learn to think more of others than of yourself, you learn to think more about how others think feel and what they perceive about the world and not only of how or your significant other view the world.

Helping the World

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Being single gives you invaluable time to let your opinions stand out and let your voice be heard apart from the typical views of others and not let the world tell you who you are. You learn that there is more to life than love and romance as you focus on other aspects of the world while you are being educated. College offers you a platform to help change the world, and you can best use your opinions as an individual for the ultimate good of yourself and others if you chose to do so. Many colleges can provide you with opportunities to travel by yourself or with a group to help out the less fortunate as well. If you were interested, not being involved in a relationship can make it easier to pack up and leave for such an opportunity. Being single in college is a sacrifice, but it is worth it in my opinion.

About Julie Mathis

Julie Mathis was born in Birmingham, Al. on December 29, 1988, where she grew up as an only child. She attended Samford University, a prestigious private university in Birmingham where she majored in Nursing and I received honor medals from being included in the Dean’s List my freshman and sophomore years. She was a member of the Alpha Lambda Delta freshman honor society, and became a member of the fraternity, Zeta Tau Alpha. She then attended Birmingham-Southern College, one of America’s Best Liberal Arts Colleges, where she became a member of the honor society for English majors, Sigma Tau Delta, and graduated with the honorary status of Cum Laude from BSC. She is now a graduate student at Delta State University in Cleveland, MS., and she enjoys writing, reading, and studying the sciences as well as the humanities.

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